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Dear Helen, please I need your help I and my husband got married about 3wks ago. And ever since we have been having issues of sexual nature. Its seems he is not sexually attracted to me and fail to have an e******n anytime we want to have s*x which started on our wedding night. Am a bit on the plus size and he didn’t fail to express his disgust over my size. We only courted for a period of 4months before we got married but we didn’t want to have s*x till our wedding night.

As much as I was looking forward to our wedding night only to my dismay to findout that my body is repulsive to him. He told me when he thinks of other ladies he gets an e******n but wit me he doesn’t. He doesn’t like the fact that am fat and seize the opportunity to complain bitterly about it. I feel very bad about this and feel he took advantage of me because every expenses concerning our wedding and the apartment where we live in all came from my purse. Please throw this open to your readers.. I need them to advice me on what to do because this marriage is just too early for me to start feeling I made a grave mistake. I’ll be expecting their responses..

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  1. deshy

    September 9, 2014 at 10:52 am

    Hnmmmm can’t believe ladies still do this. Even b4 the marriage am sure the man must have been doing these tins but probably cuz she just want to get married she ignored it. If she wants to save her marriage she should work on herself but am sure the guy would still not be interested cuz seems he married her only for the money and not love. He pretended the whole time they were courting. Dear I feel for yu. Yur marriage is just too early to be going trough such.

  2. Olubukola

    September 9, 2014 at 11:11 am

    Hello new bride,

    Happy Married Life!

    Well…I sincerely sympathise with you on this issue. I wish I can talk to you one on one. From your story, his “problem” is your size. Why not try to put some measures in place to shed some weight? I once heard a pastor, many yrs ago, who said he used to abuse his wife cos she was getting fat.Now, u’ll nt believe she’s been married for close to 20+.
    Try reading saturday punch, Funmi Akingbade’s column-so many couples’ sexual issues are discussed.
    Most importantly, no marriage can thrive outside God(or else, u do it the Devil’s way). Resolve to surrender your life and marriage to God. Trust Him for a divine intervention.
    You will surely laugh last. Don’t loose hope. Don’t give up! Take care!

  3. Oloruntoba Amos

    September 9, 2014 at 11:12 am

    My advise for the lady is to quit the marriage as early as possible. I believe the man didn’t love her but her money. She should quit honourably before he ruin her life and her resources.

  4. Bisola

    September 9, 2014 at 11:28 am

    This is indeed a pathetic experience for any lady. Just four months into the marriage? The first mistake by the woman in question here is that she was the one that married the man and not the other way round. During their four months courtship was there no romance for her to know if the man is indeed a complete person??? She was desperate to get married that’s why all expenses came from her. The deed is done and my advice for her is to take time to really think what she wants now. Only she can decide that. If its me I will go for divorce.

  5. cc Amax

    September 9, 2014 at 11:29 am

    I think ur husband has something else he has not told u,he need to see a doctor.


    September 9, 2014 at 11:34 am

    For me there is no much problem their if they both love each other let them just find solution for them selves. But if de man is too weak for her likeness let him go to hospital or. Visit of ebony sex developer foundation for couples thank u.

  7. valentine

    September 9, 2014 at 11:59 am

    So sorry about this but u can’t still make amend
    That man must be a golddiger how can he be so wicked in just three weeks nawa Oooo
    He could have say it before taking you to alter but never the less baby go and tell ur pastor or rev father that wedd you ppl

  8. Jecy

    September 9, 2014 at 11:59 am

    I feel so sorry for the woman and the truth is she really can just walk away from it all since the wedding has not been “consumated” yet. That said, Mrs “Wife”, do not ever let any one put you down! I don’t know you but I know that u are a beautiful- wonderfully and fearfully made by the Almighty Himself. Finally my dear- invest ur money instead of spending it to marry a man- a man will never value what he got for “FREE”.

    All the best on whatever decision you take, because you alone shall live with it.
    Ps: I wish I can see that man, he’s not a man!

  9. hauwa

    September 9, 2014 at 12:33 pm

    Just try and loose some weight, it might help.

  10. olayemi

    September 9, 2014 at 5:41 pm

    Dear wife, I sympathise with you, but truth been told, u must vac seen signs in him that he didn’t want you sexually before u got hitched, guys dont normally joke with things like dat, if u really love this man n want to keep ur marriage u can shed for him, I think dat is healthy for both u and ur husband, but on the other hand if he treats you like trash and brings down ur self esteem I think the best bet is to leave the marriage as early as possible even now that there are no children involved. U ate beautiful and deserve someone that will treat you like his queen and besides I av seen men who solely adorn women on the plus size maybe dats is not who God meant u to be with. Sometimes it’s better to be single and happy than married and miserable. You deserve to be happy. Marriage isn’t the answer to happiness.

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